26 October 2017

No Ordinary Country, No Ordinary Love! | Study With New Zealand

Donna Mae Salubayba
Filipino postgraduate diploma student

One of my dreams is to live in a place where there is no discrimination and judgment.

Live life to the fullest 

At the age of 37, I have realized that life is too short not to live it to the fullest. So I decided to explore new career, new place, and meet new friends with my 14-year partner in life. I am in a same-sex relationship. A kind of relationship that may be nerve-racking for some but may be acceptable to others. This is my life. I will live according to what I believe in.

You only live once

I have been living in the shadow for almost fourteen years. Only a few people know my true identity. I was afraid then of criticisms. I live in a country where this kind of relationship is not yet fully accepted. It is hard to conform to the norm. A norm that only people set the tone. A tone that only people would want to see and hear. I am tired of lying. I want to be open and out and be proud of who I am.

Follow your dreams

One of my dreams is to live in a place where there is no discrimination and judgment. It may be very ideal but at least a place that is close to this. So I thought of New Zealand where people embrace diversity of culture and gender. No more no less. No second look on seeing two women holding hands and hugging. Instead, a wide smile on the faces we come across with.


I am a woman and I love a woman. This is a love that has been tested by time. This is a kind of love that goes beyond physical being. This is a love that is built by trust and founded by a true concern to support each other. Our love is guided by our spiritual faith. We are keeping this faith to go on and inspire each other.


Walking hand in hand with the cold breeze of air touching our skin is freedom at its best. Holding her tight while listening to the chirping of birds is the best music I have ever heard. The colors of the rainbow painted on the sky while sitting on the sands of beautiful beaches is a sign that I am home. New Zealand is our home.

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About the contributors
Donna Mae Salubayba
Filipino postgraduate diploma student

Donna Mae Salubayba is from Manila, Philippines. She graduated from the University of the Philippines – Diliman with a Bachelor in Science and Tourism and Masters in Human Movement Science. She has fifteen years of teaching experience as a physical education and dance teacher. Currently, she is studying for a Postgraduate Diploma in Business Management at Toi Ohomai Institute of Technology in Rotorua, New Zealand.